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How often do you bake and have more than you can eat? Why not take some of those cookies, or half that cake to your neighbor. The family with children, or the widow/widower, or the working couple, would certainly appreciate your gift. You wouldn't be out anything, as the excess would get stale before you could eat it, anyway. People never forget kindnesses like this!
Nothing like getting together with friends for an afternoon of fellowship. For all you book-lovers, why not start a monthly book review club; for fishermen, a monthly build-your-own-lures; for seamstresses, a piece-a-baby-quilt group, then give the finished quilt to a needy organization that cares for AIDS babies. So many possibilities. Serve just hot or cold drinks and snack; not expensive, but you'll all have a grand get-together.
Ever wonder why you don't have friendly neighbors? Hmmm...Ok, they're/you're new to the area; they're noisy; I don't think I'd like them; they're of a different culture; they have teen-agers; I can't be bothered....say what?? C'mon, it's time to break the ice. If they are new, take them a pie or cake and welcome them to the neighborhood. If they're noisy, strike up a friendly conversation as soon as you can, and 'just-happen-to-mention' how some of the noise disturbs your rest that you need, adding that you bet they weren't even aware of the noise. You say you don't like them...how'd you come to that conclusion if you don't really know them? Get to know them! They're of a different culture....so? What better way to broaden your knowledge than to make friends with people of other cultures? Don't say you're too old to learn...uh..uh..won't take that excuse; start now to build this relationship. Hmmm...they have teen-agers. Well, now, aren't you lucky! Bake some cookies and share with them. Or give them a good book you think they'd like. My teen-age neighbors are the first to help me unload my groceries from the car. They check on me everytime they don't see me for a day. One put my outdoor grill together for me. Need I say more? If you can't be bothered, you'll remain lonely; you'll never know the wonderful neighbors you have. No one knows how loving and friendly you can be unless you make that first step. Just DO it! GO!
A great way to develop relationships with friends and family is to invite them to a party...YOURS! These don't have to be elaborate or expensive. Plan ahead and you'll suprise yourself with your own ideas. Do you want decorations? Make them. Do you serve food? Be frugal with cold-cuts, breads, condiments. Get a friend to help with grilling hamburgers, hotdogs, and veggie-kabobs. And utilize plastic plates and large cups for drinks so you don't worry about breakage. Then relax, and enjoy yourself!
'Diets' aren't always the easy way to maintain a healthy weight for senior health...BUT...eating less can be. Use the salad plate for our meals rather than the dinner plate; less surface, less food. Our system will soon adapt to this decrease and 'less' will be plenty!
Haven't been in contact with some friends for a while? It's time you sit down and write them a note. Yes, even a quick one. How 'bout "have been thinking of you lately and would like to try to get together for lunch sometime soon"...or "I'd almost forgotten you are a grandparent, now. Am anxious to hear about the baby"...well, you know what you'd want to say. Get out the note-cards and write away...right away!
We've just found out that a friend is ill; did we ask if they need help? They just might need a ride to the doctors; did we ask? They might need a few groceries or a prescription filled; did we ask? Would they enjoy a hot pot of soup or stew; did we ask? Most likely, these favors will be returned to us when we get ill, so don't forget to ask?
When's the last time you had lunch with friends or former co-workers? That long, huh! Start calling them now, and make that date for lunch. My guess is, they are waiting to hear from you. Don't have transportation? Bet they wouldn't mind picking you up; you'll never know if you don't try. C'mon...pick up the phone and make that call!
|Jennifer Mathes, Ph.D.|